Description
This guide is for mums who are exhausted from trying to keep it together – for their child and themselves. It’s a practical, validating resource for families navigating the emotional intensity of daily life, whether it looks like explosive outbursts or silent shutdowns.
It’s not just about your child’s behaviour – it’s about the pressure you carry, the guilt you feel, and the mental load that builds when no one sees how much you’re managing.
What You’ll Find Inside:
Meltdowns vs. Shutdowns (vs. Tantrums)
Learn how to recognise the difference between these responses and why your child – or you – might go from calm to completely overwhelmed with little warning. Understand what’s actually happening in the nervous system and why logic doesn’t work in the moment.
In-the-Moment Strategies That Actually Work
You’ll get step-by-step guidance for how to respond during a meltdown or a shutdown, including scripts, sensory tools, movement/stillness options, and recovery ideas tailored to both outward and inward responses.
Printable Checklists, Plans & Visual Tools
From meltdown tracking templates to customisable reset plans, you’ll have tools to reduce confusion and build confidence – for your child and for you.
Support for Mum Meltdowns & Shutdowns
This isn’t just about your child. You’ll explore what shutdowns look like in mums (hint: they often go unnoticed), how to spot early signs in yourself, and how to create a plan that includes your own regulation needs – not just your child’s.
Real-Life Examples You’ll Relate To
From emotional stories on the soccer field to the crying-in-the-car moments we don’t talk about – this guide includes real experiences from real mums who’ve been there, so you feel seen and understood.
Practical Prevention Without Perfection
You’ll learn how to lower daily pressure through sensory awareness, low-demand routines, and values-based reflection – without needing to change your whole life or become a regulation expert.
This guide is here to help you:
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Know what to do when everything feels too much (for them or for you)
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Feel less alone in the messiness of it all
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Create a plan that works on hard days – not just calm ones
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Stop blaming yourself for struggling with things that aren’t meant to be easy
The Meltdown & Shutdown Guide for Mums & Children isn’t about preventing big emotions – it’s about learning how to respond with confidence, compassion, and a plan that actually works in real life.
You deserve support, too.
Jane xx
FAQ
Is this just a behaviour guide for my kid?
No – and that’s exactly why it exists. This guide helps you understand your child’s meltdowns and shutdowns and your own. It’s not just about strategies for kids. It’s about supporting nervous system regulation for everyone in the house – especially the mum who keeps pushing through until she can’t anymore.
What if I’ve already been told it’s just tantrums or bad behaviour?
Then you’ll probably find huge relief here. The guide breaks down the difference between tantrums, meltdowns, and shutdowns in a way that makes it impossible to ignore. This is what helps when you feel like no one’s taking it seriously – not teachers, not family, not even your GP.
I feel like I’m the one melting down. Will this help me too?
Absolutely. There’s a whole section on mum meltdowns and shutdowns – how they look, why they’re missed, and what to do when you feel like you’re going to snap or shut down completely. If you’re used to holding it all in until it explodes, this guide might be the first time you feel seen.
My kid doesn’t have a diagnosis - does this still apply?
Yes. A diagnosis isn’t a requirement to need support. If you’re seeing signs of sensory overload, emotional crashes, or unpredictable explosions – this guide gives you practical strategies without needing a label. It’s about understanding the nervous system, not medicalising your child.
Will I get access to future updates?
Yes – always. If I expand this guide or add anything new, you’ll get the updated version automatically. No chasing it, no extra payments. Once you have it, it’s yours to keep and keep current.
What if I buy it and it’s just more stuff that makes me feel like a crap mum?
Then I’ll refund you – no stress, no questions. But this isn’t a guide that tells you to be calmer, stricter, or more organised. It’s the one that finally says: “You’re not the problem. The system is.” And then shows you what actually helps.
