“He’s dreaming about long-haul holidays, and I’m just trying to survive the car trip without someone crying or forgetting the snacks.”
In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks the silent, simmering rage that builds when one parent is dreaming of escape — while the other is drowning in the day-to-day logistics of parenting.
It’s not about the Maldives. It’s about the gap.
The emotional labour gap. The regulation gap. The ‘who actually carries the mental load and who still gets to fantasise about freedom’ gap.
This isn’t just about planning a holiday. It’s about how weaponised incompetence, uneven parenting, and total nervous system overload turn every conversation about ‘getting away’ into a reminder that no one sees what you’re already holding.
If you’ve ever nodded at a getaway idea while secretly calculating how many bags, meds, routines and meltdowns you’d have to carry — this episode is for you.
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