“Are you reacting to their behaviour — or the version of you that was never allowed to exist?”
Why this episode hits hard
In this Quick Reset, Jane pulls the curtain back on one of the most emotionally confronting parts of neurodivergent parenting: when your child’s defiance, rage or shutdown mirrors the parts of yourself you were forced to suppress.
This isn’t just parenting stress — it’s nervous system trauma echoing back through your kid’s behaviour.
She unpacks why your child’s meltdowns can feel so personal, how generational trauma shapes our parenting triggers, and what to do when your own body is sounding the alarm.
If you’ve ever felt irrationally furious over a rejected dinner, a lost shoe, or a public meltdown — this episode will help you name the pattern, reduce the shame, and actually parent from a regulated place.
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A Guide to Navigating School Pick-Ups for ADHD Mums – includes scripts, social energy planning tools, boundary ideas, and neurodivergent/NT parent dynamics.
