Being Autistic or having ADHD is a unique experience, but what happens when these two neurotypes coexist? For many mums, understanding the interplay of ADHD and Autism – often referred to as AuDHD – can be a transformative process. In this blog, we’ll unpack the complexities of dual diagnoses, explore how traits overlap, and discuss what it means to embrace neurodivergence authentically. Some of these stereotypes need to be broken down to offer a fresh perspective on what it means to thrive with both neurotypes in this episode.
Listen to the Full Episode (Unique Differences of ADHD and Autism in Women with Dr. Jacinta Thomson)
Apple Podcast: HERE
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The Unmasking Effect of ADHD Medication
For many women, starting ADHD medication brings unexpected changes. It can unmask underlying traits that previously went unnoticed, sometimes revealing autistic characteristics. I shared my personal experience of feeling less social, craving downtime, and struggling with sensory overload after starting ADHD medication.
ADHD medication can strip away the ADHD shield which may have been hiding Autistic traits. This often leads to a deeper exploration of neurodivergence, helping women identify and understand themselves more holistically. For example, covering up social anxiety with hyperactivity and impulsivity.
The Overlap Between ADHD and Autism
ADHD and Autism often coexist, but their traits can appear contradictory:
(This is not a full list of traits, rather just a couple of generic traits)
- ADHD: Thrives on novelty and spontaneity, dislikes routine, and often craves stimulation.
- Autism: Prefers predictability, struggles with change, and seeks comfort in routine.
Despite these differences, they share commonalities such as sensory sensitivities, executive functioning challenges, and social masking.
What Does an Autistic Mum Look Like?
Autistic women, particularly mums, are often misunderstood due to outdated stereotypes. Forget the Rain Man stereotype – autistic mums may appear highly social or organised, but beneath the surface, they could be masking their struggles.
- Masking in Social Settings: Autistic mums may have rehearsed eye contact or mimicing neurotypical behaviours so much as a child they are easily dismissed in the assessment process but don’t be mistaken these are learnt, not natural. This can make social interactions feel taxing.
- Preference for Depth: Many autistic women thrive in one-on-one, meaningful conversations over superficial small talk.
- Sensory Sensitivities: From hating underwire bras to struggling with noisy environments, sensory overload is a significant challenge.
Common Misconceptions and Challenges
Many mums are unaware they might be autistic because of societal misconceptions:
- Myth: Autistic people lack empathy.
- Reality: Many autistic individuals experience heightened empathy, which can be overwhelming.
- Myth: Autism is easy to spot.
- Reality: High-masking individuals often blend in by mimicking neurotypical behaviours, making their Autism harder to recognise.
These misconceptions lead to late diagnoses and missed opportunities for support.
What Should You Do If You Suspect You’re Autistic?
Self-identification is a valid starting point. I always encourage Mums to explore their traits without feeling pressured to pursue a formal diagnosis unless it’s necessary for accessing supports like NDIS.
Practical steps include:
- Research: Dive into resources like what’s included in the ADHD Mums Shop
- Seek Professional Guidance: Chat with a psychologist or GP experienced in high-masking presentations.
- Build Your Understanding: Embrace your traits and how they influence your life.
Navigating Life as AuDHD
Being Autistic and having ADHD can feel like a tug-of-war between conflicting needs. Here are some practical strategies for managing this interplay:
- Prioritise sensory regulation when overwhelmed.
- Balance your ADHD’s craving for novelty with your Autism’s need for routine.
- Advocate for yourself unapologetically – whether that means leaving social events early or skipping small talk.
- Be aware that sometimes you may impulsively say yes to something but then not feel like doing it when the time comes. So think twice before offering to host Christmas in the heat of the moment.
Key Takeaways
- ADHD medication can reveal autistic traits, prompting further exploration. If this is happening to you then please go back to your treating practitioner and discuss this. Sometimes ADHD medication needs to be paired with another medication or changed and its important to seek help early.
- Autistic Mums often present differently than stereotypes suggest, with high masking and nuanced behaviours.
- Self-identification is valid; formal diagnoses aren’t always necessary unless specific supports are required.
- Understanding your neurotype can empower you to thrive authentically, balancing the unique challenges of AuDHD.
Your Neurodivergent Journey
Navigating ADHD and Autism is deeply personal. Whether you’re just beginning to explore your traits or embracing a dual diagnosis, know that you’re not alone. As Dr Thomson said, “It’s not about fixing yourself – it’s about understanding and embracing who you are.”
Join the Conversation: Have you experienced the overlap of ADHD and Autism? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments, or connect with our community for support.
Listen to the Full Episode
Apple Podcast: HERE
Spotify: HERE
Resources
If you’d like to know more about Dr Jacinta Thomson check her out here: www.timetountangle.com.au/
Related Episode:
S01E62: Uncovering the subtle traits of Autistic daughters with Eliza Harris | Listen on Apple Podcast or Spotify
S02E37: ADHD, Autism, or Both? Kara’s Story of Burnout and Sensory Overload | Listen on Apple Podcast or Spotify
